Ever had anyone who suddenly comes into your school and jumps into your friendship group like it was an okay thing to do? Well, I have (twice). I am a friendly person and is open to being kind to you and being friends with you. But after a while, she had a vibe about her. I am normally good at sensing people’s aura but I think there was a delay or something. She came to high school in the third year and she jumped into the friendship circle I was in. I was okay with her for a little bit and stayed friends with her until the end. But it was the little things she said to me and did that questioned how much of a friend she really is:
- My first boyfriend broke up with me and she confessed later that she found him very cute and fancied him when she first started but saw he was with me and decided to stay away.
- I told her that I fancy this guy in confidence and she went out to ask him out for me but ended up “accidentally” asking him out for herself.
- We were supposed to be in a group for our final drama performance and she was telling me how she is extremely reluctant to work with this guy in our group. The day came when the drama teacher asked us to form our groups and I looked like a right idiot sitting there by myself when she moved to another group. She didn’t tell me anything about moving but she casually apologised a week later (like that makes it okay) *
- I joked about her looking like one of the traffic lights when she wore a red dress to prom and she was sat next to two other people wearing orange and green (one of which was actually me). She didn’t like that and snubbed our table to hang out with other people for the rest of the event.
- She moved to the Sixth Form college I went to and again (she did it twice!) hanged out with my friendship group I was in and acted like I was being distant. (I ended up leaving that friendship group after they all showed their true colours).
- I invited her to my 18th birthday party, she sang me a song and at the end of the evening, she didn’t thank me and I haven’t heard from her since.
I know that when I had started having bad vibes about her that I should have walked away much sooner and not welcomed her as my friend. But seriously, if I had just walked away I would have been the one seen as bitchy and I didn’t want that. Also, I know that being an angsty teenager I tend to have bad days and so I thought maybe I was just reflecting my problems on her (my sister also admitted she got that vibe about her when I told her about this post) but I just had a gut feeling that I am right. This experience taught me to be cautious of people who claim to be my “friend” because sometimes their intentions are not real.
*I will post a follow-up story to explain more about this drama project and my ex-friend.
As a child, curiosity gets the better of me. I was a very fortunate child and even though many people thought I was just an innocent little human being (some still do), I was very mischievous. It was a hot day and everyone was inside watching TV with electric fans in every corner of the room. The dogs were outside sleeping and I was sad that I couldn’t go out because all my friends were doing other things. I was so bored and even though I could have been doing my homework or playing with my toys I was just feeling restless. I sat on the steps in the backyard thinking what I could do. Maybe I could sneak out of the house over to my friend’s house but I know I will probably get told off. I could wake the dogs but I could also get bitten and I wouldn’t want that. Then my eyes rested on the chicken coop. The chickens have been stuck inside for a long time so a little walk couldn’t hurt them. So, I let them out. And what followed was one of the funniest things I could have ever witnessed.
The chickens jumped out of the coop and ran around the backyard. All good so far. Then one chicken hopped up on the bed bench where the dogs were taking their naps. Another chicken followed and another and the next thing you know all five chickens were having a riot walking on the sleeping dogs. But you know the saying: NEVER WALK ON SLEEPING DOGS (okay I made that up). The dogs, of course, woke up and tried to murder the chickens. I ran inside and was like the Boy who cried Wolf: ‘Lola, your chicken got out and the dogs are trying to kill them!’. Everyone was sceptical at first and didn’t believe me but when one of the house helpers went outside and shouted: ‘The chickens are flying away, come and help!’. Everyone rushed outside and I stood there thinking: ‘I tried to tell you’. They spent 30 minutes trying to round up the chickens and protect them from the dogs who didn’t appreciate their nap being interrupted. I was meanwhile watching all of this happen and crackling with laughter as they figure out what happened. Those chicken can definitely take flight but after that incident, they were cooped in for days.
Until this day, no one was still sure what happened lol and of course, they didn’t suspect it was me (well if someone I know reads this they might know now so I apologise in advance #sorrynotsorry).
My first boyfriend and I met in high school because we were in the same form group. I personally didn’t know anything about dating and wasn’t looking for a boyfriend but being a naive 13-year-old girl what was I supposed to know. We dated for 6 months and were on and off for another 3 years. One day I asked him when was the first time he knew he liked me and he replied: ‘When you were sat next to me.’ I must have looked confused so he continued: ‘When we were in our form room we had to sit next to each other and I told you that my parents were separated.’ I nodded at him, pretended I knew and we went off with our relationship. I was reflecting on it one night and the moment he told me about started to replay in my mind.
We had to sit alphabetically for our form group and I was sat next to this guy. We didn’t really talk (because I was immature and thought boys have cooties or something lol). Anyways, I was shy and didn’t feel the need to talk to someone I will only see in the mornings and the occasional classes. I remember he would laugh at what I said and try to make conversation, but I would just nod or dismiss him with an exaggerated ‘Okay’ or shrug. It was protocol to check all our details such as address and phone numbers so the school could store the information in the database. I was handing mine in and he suddenly leaned over and pointed out that my parents live at the same address. I did my exaggerated okay then he pointed out that his parents were divorced and that’s why they had different addresses. I didn’t really care and didn’t think out it until I asked him when he first liked me. It was so weird remembering that moment back then and right now. I didn’t realise that boys have such good memories (especially on things that meant so much to them) and as a young girl who thought she was in love that was a sweet realisation. If only boys would grow up and stay this why instead of being jerks. He was my first boyfriend so I find it natural to keep coming back to him and I am warning you now the stories I have about him are to gag for.
When I still lived in the Philippines, we lived in a house with my Lola (granny) and my Tita (Aunt) and the house helpers. Me and my sister, Vanessa used to have a room full of toys. Dolls, cars, a kite, Legos and all those tiny things that my Tita wanted to throw away but we secretly hid. But the toy we loved playing with the most was a waving lucky cat sat on the top shelf on the mantlepiece.
Vanessa and I would climb the large sofa and balance on the top, on our tiptoes watching the lucky cat wave one arm. We would hold onto it and see what would happen if the cat couldn’t wave anymore (clearly, we were devil children lol). Anyways long story short, after 4 months of torture the arm broke off and no amount of tape or hot glue can fix it. That’s where the Lucky Waving Cat 2.0 came a month later. We didn’t touch it again (because we were scared on being told off) but there was always something special I found when I see those waving cats in shop windows or in other people’s homes. I’m not superstitious or anything but a part of me wanted to believe that those cats really brought you good luck cause damn I could use some dusting of luck now and again!
I know I haven’t been as active as I would like and I apologise for that with all my heart. I try my best to write and schedule posts when I can but I know I have been failing slightly on that front. That is why I have decided to open a series for this year that talks about my past adventures and things I have already discovered but haven’t shared with anyone. This probably defeats the purpose of this whole blog but right now, I feel compelled to write about the little things I still remember (before adulting fully takes over).
This series (still deciding on the name) will start on the 25th of February which marks my one year anniversary of The Undiscovered Adventures. It will talk about past relationships, friendships, conflicts etc… that are part of my life and the reason I made this blog in the first place. I have always been a quiet person and an introvert but I pride myself on being creative and I love telling stories. I have always wanted to do big things but recently I have come to realise that in order to do big things, I need to remember the small things first. I want to tell you my story on this platform, on my blog. I want to re-live my life as a 21 year old looking back on her life so far. I think that personally I am at the stage of my life where I tend to feel stuck and start to wonder more and more if maybe this is all life has for me but I can feel that there are so many opportunities available for me and many more adventures to discover and I can’t wait to see what’s to come.
So, please come and join me in revisiting past untold stories and finding out how these now discovered stories defined me, a 21 years old aspiring blogger who is going to make big things happen! Watch this space.
Peace and Love ✌🏽❤️
Lately, I have been feeling undervalued and overwhelmed with everything that is going on. I don’t feel right and my heart feels broken. I always try to smile it out and remember that it will get better soon. But then soon turns to someday and someday turns to one day and then that one day just seems so far away. My shoulders feels heavy like I have a lot on my plate but I had just one week of vacation so that doesn’t make sense. My mind was so clear and trouble free during the one week break but now I just don’t feel happy. I feel sad and angry and almost pessimistic about everything. I don’t want to say I’m depressed but my anxiety just feels like it’s taking over every part of me and as much as I want them to go away- they don’t. I can’t even pin-point what’s making me feel this way. I think that’s the worse part. I don’t know what it is and it’s making me even more anxious.
I wish I know what is making me feel this way. I wish I can figure it out because I feel I could just cave in any minute now.
The feast just keeps on coming and I am not complaining. We are celebrating Chinese New Year again this year and there will be a lot of food to eat and a lot of things to grateful for. I can’t remember when we first started celebrating it and why (apart from another reason to cook and eat yummy food) but I enjoy celebrating nonetheless. It is also a good time to sit down as a family and enjoy each others company.
We started cooking yesterday and I am tired from tidying the house but hopefully as I am writing this, the house is adequately clean still as we continue to cook the food ready for tonight. The Year of the Rooster has been okay and has been an eventful year for me and I hope the Year of the Dog will be even better and will bring more success and opportunities.
I hope you all have a wonderful and plentiful night, day or afternoon as the Chinese New Year arrives or has arrived in your country.
恭喜发财 / 恭喜發財 (Gōngxǐ fācái)
‘Happiness and prosperity!’
过年好 / 過年好 (Guònián hǎo)
‘Pass the New Year well!’